(1) The world is changing: Cyber relationships

By Martynas Jakas (1996), Silute pirmoji gymnasium/Lithuania

Centuries are passing and everyday we see how the world is changing. It’s changing in good and bad ways. Of course, we are changing this world, but we shouldn’t forget, that we also change ourselves.

One of the biggest changes that we have made in ourselves is our way we communicate and socialize. About fopurty years ago the Internet was created, but it was only used in the USA, and our when our grandparents were of about the same age we are mow, they didn’t have the Internet. They had phones, but the main possibility to get in touch with their friends was still going out to meet them. They spent their free time without any technologies, but their lives weren’t as bad as some of us would think. These days we have the Internet, we have social sites like facebook, twitter, google+, etc. A lot of people not only use them everyday, but they also forget to communicate with each other face to face. This isn’t as bad as it sounds, by according to online dating statistics, dating is the third most popular service provided by the Internet, 280 thousand marriages a year happen, because the lovers met each other via internet, 94% of people meet their “e-partner” again after first meeting and the relationships last for an average of at least seven months. Those who exchanged gifts before they met in a real life had a stronger relationship, the more the couple chatted through the Internet, the more they trusted each other. These facts are quite impressive, but cyber relationships aren’t just that. The flip side to it is that by giving your personal information you may be get into trouble. A lot of criminals take advantage of naïve teenagers and younger women who are looking for a deeper relationship. It is possible for them to do this because on the Internet no one knows who you are in a real life. This way people lose their money, friends, trust in people and sometimes they their lives when they want to meet with the “Faker”.

To some of us, this is how we may feel, when being cyber bullied.

Another change in our life is bullying. While having the Internet, mobile phones, bullying reached another level: it also became cyber bullying. This way bullies got an easier way to harm their victims. There are six types of bullying reported: from “flaming” to exclusion from an online group. Before it became cyber, it was common mostly in schools, but now it is common everywhere. Bullying makes children to become aggressive, anti-social, and it being cyber makes these problems become even more frequent. In addition stopping bullies was easier, but now, it’s harder to track them through the Internet. That’s why bullying became worse.

In conclusion, we understand that the world is changing, but we shouldn’t forget that we change too. That’s why we should be more careful and think before we do anything, because that may alter our life to the worst.

4 Responses to “(1) The world is changing: Cyber relationships”

  1. I didn’t realise that so many marriages happen after cyber dating. Wow, 280 thousand a year? That’s a great number! On one hand it’s nice to hear that so many people are lucky enough to find their ‘second halves’ through the Internet but on the other hand, I (personally) wouldn’t be brave enough to meet in reality with an unknown person who has just written to me on facebook. Maybe it’s because my beliefs are similar to what you wrote – that there are these ‘fakers’ who may easily take advantage of you. However, I believe that there are many people who think the same as I do. Most of them are simply afraid of such realtionships after hearing so much about the ‘fakers’ on TV, Internet and radio.
    Good job, a very nice article!

  2. I’m very thankful that you took your time to read my article and write these nice and kind comments. I hope that more people will consider reading this article before making major descisions that are related to cyber relationships.

  3. Very interessting side to see it.
    I also think that cyber relationships are not the best because of all the negative aspects like putting you in danger by giving personal information or forgetting about the “real life”.If you spend too much time chatting with people than really speaking with them you might forget how to talk to somebody and treat them in real life. Your character is also formed by that. I mean of course i also do think that its good because of all the posibilities you have to talk to people from other countries. Lots of family members and friends of mine live days away from me and the internet is the cheapest and fastest way to talk to them and change news. But if you just met someone on facebook or myspace and spend half of the day chatting, after some time it affects your personality and way of live.
    So i am kind of your opinion..nice article:)

  4. I think your statement to the advantages on the internet is the one that I would support, too. When I read the newspaper I always see the opinions of people, that are maybe seeing the dangers of internet but they dont explain the pros of what the internet can offer us. All what they spread is that you better shouldn´t use it anymore.
    Thats what I like about your advice.